1. "You don't have to be perfect. Effort and improvement are important."
2. "You are a valuable part of the team"
3. "It is okay to make a mistake, we all do. What do you think you learned from it?"
4. "How can we turn this into a positive?"
5. "I'm proud of you for trying"
6. "I'll bet by next year you will be able to handle [them], you just need to grow a little"
7. "I know you are disappointed that you didn't win, but you'll do better next time."